What exactly is the difference between sexy and hot? I'm not questioning your options, but I never really understood why people use them in different ways..
on topic: hot. :p
(the question was how you want other people to see you, right?)
Judgement101: Red Dead Redemption. It was GREAT until a bunch of douches kept killing players in free roam. I want to kill a damn gang NOT OTHER FUCKING PLAYERS, and the spawn killing, OH THE SPAWNKILLING. If you die once prepare for a hailstorm of deaths, spawn deaths, and being headshoted. Best of all people will go out of their way to piss you off, and its not worth any XP (okay 10XP but that barely justifies it) they do it purely to piss you off.
As someone who kills people in free roam...
If you don't want people to have the option of killing you, then start a private match. If all you want is to be one guy alone in a world fighting gangs then use the option the game provides you. And don't play in an open lobby that allows players to murder each other.
Or form a group / posse and defend yourself.
Or maybe people like you should play deathmatches instead of killing players who are there for fun. And, again, killing in free roam is done just for the sake of pissing off other players.
Except that the game itself allows people to do it. Just like it allows you to remove yourself from the general public that may or may not want to kill you.
The wild west was pretty wild. People were killed for their horses, or land, or women, or because somebody might be too close to a gold claim.